We nerds are trained from an early age to argue on the internet, hone our logical skills, and engage with people based on data instead of empathy.
It’s so hard to divorce reason, emotion, and making progress on a project. Letting a logical inconsistency go is harder than forcing someone to see the flaw in their reasoning. Getting angry or worked-up feels more powerful than a supportive attitude. There are so many disasters to avoid, it’s hard to not to force everyone to listen to all the things you’ve been burned by previously and how you want to avoid them at all costs.
Take a deep breath. Fire up your empathy muscles. Figure out how to say “yes” to the work of your teammates while using your experience to guide that work to an even better place. This is what they call “constructive teamwork”.
